SEPTEMBER 12 was "R U OK?" Day - an opportunity to get worries out in the open and and deal with them to get back to that happy state we all desire.
Problems, stressors and worries can make us feel down, but we can all provide an outlet for someone we know - whether it be a friend, family member or colleague - to talk to.
The campaign encourages everyone to meaningfully ask people they know "R U OK?" and offer a listening ear.
Happiness is a state of well-being and contentment that we all want to feel and experience most of the time. Being truly happy, smiling and laughing can have amazing physiological effect’s on the brain, and in turn brighten your mood (and maybe those around you too).
It’s human nature to want to be happy most of the time, but we should not feel the pressure to be happy all of the time. There is no doubt that everyone goes through periods in their lives that make us feel a whole range of emotions that are not conducive to happiness, but they are important emotions none the less and need to be worked through with determination.
By asking “R U OK?” or any of the other conversation starter questions you are opening the lines of communication and even if the person does not want to talk, they at least know that you will be there should they want to talk in the future.
What to do:
1. Ask R U OK?
Start a conversation somewhere private
Build trust through open and relaxed body language
-Ask open-ended questions
2. Listen without judgement
Give them time to reply
Avoid solving their problems
Don’t trivialize what they’re feeling
3. Encourage Action
Summarise the issues
Ask them what they plan to do
Urge them to take one step towards that solution
4. Follow Up
Put a note in your diary to call them in one week
Listen without judgement again
Ask if they’ve managed to take their first step
If you are not ok, please don’t hesitate, contact a counsellor on 1300 361 008.
For more information go to the "R U OK?" Day website.